Do blondes really have more fun? I always thought so. Growing up Asian in an all-white town, I always wished that I could be one thing: Blonde-haired and blue eyed = normal. Even now, after 33 years of life and finally getting over the "issues" I have from childhood (mostly getting over) about not wanting to be Asian, I still sometimes feel like I wish I could be the all-American blonde girl-next-door.
Why do I feel this way? I don't know. I was watching Something Borrowed, Something New on TLC, and the 22-year old, perfect-looking blonde Barbie type comes on with her mom, and they ask her how she met her fiance. She proceeds to tell them that she went to a professional baseball game and was sitting behind the dugout when a player saw her and introduced himself, and now they're getting married, and all I could think was, "She's so pretty, the kind of pretty that everyone thinks is perfect, obviously if a professional athlete was so drawn to her that he had to talk to her. If that had been me at 22. He wouldn't have noticed."
I couldn't help thinking that I would be more attractive if I was blonde and more stereotypical "white" pretty. Was I jealous? Of course I was. All women get jealous for silly reasons; that's just what we do - it's in our nature. Was it a justified feeling? I don't know. I must still have issues from high school from not ever being asked out - once! That's probably why I perceive white people to be more attractive because that's what I grew up around, and it's all I ever wanted to be when I was growing up.
What was it about her that drew him to her? Was it her blonde hair and how it sparkled in the sunlight like gold? Why is it always the blonde who's the love interest in a movie, and the dark-haired or Asian woman is the villain? Obviously I can't just dye my hair blonde and become a blonde bombshell - I'm Asian, and I can't change that. I'd just end up looking like a Harajuku Girl or some crazy Asian who is trying too hard to stand out in the crowd.
Do we all wish we could look like someone different, or are some of us TRULY happy with how we look? Are blondes the happiest with how they look because they are inherently seen as more attractive because of their hair color? Is that why they have more fun - because they have more confidence?
I suppose if I weren't Asian, I wouldn't have ended up with the cutest little 1/2 and 1/2 little boy ever, but still... Do white people ever wish they could be anything other than white? I can't imagine so. I'm not saying that on some level I'm not happy with being Asian because I kind of am (only thanks to my husband Mark who has helped me to embrace it). There are just times when I wonder what it would be like to be the blonde-haired white equivalent of myself... just for a day.
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Cyndi M. Frick
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