Boys are supposed to play with cars, and girls are supposed to play with dolls; boys should wear blue, and girls should wear pink, right? I know it's the 21st Century, but gender roles are still very much defined in our society.
I guess that would explain why when I was shopping online today for shirts for my little boy, I found myself questioning why there were options in pink and purple. My mouse hovered over the purple shirt as I was drawn to it, but I was conflicted as to whether or not I should "confuse" his clothing.
Why would I be so hesitant? He looks good in purple. Maybe the reason is that about a year or so ago, a woman came up to us in the grocery store and said, "Beautiful girl!" about my son who was wearing a bright red winter coat and a hat that looked like a puppy's face. Was I traumatized, or was it society's lingering stigmas that were plaguing me?
I also find myself cringing a little when I see my son favor the pink plastic cup and the pink treats in the sea of otherwise pastel-colored candies. Why? I'm not sure why he likes pink... maybe he is just drawn to the color because it is bright and because he doesn't see a lot of it in his world of boy and gender-neutral toys? I'm sure it means nothing that he likes the color, but I still wonder if there is a deeper meaning to his choice...
As I stared at the bright pink Victoria's Secret shopping bag on the counter, I thought, "Leighton would probably love this bag to play with because it's pink", but something stopped me from giving it to him. There's no way that giving him a pink shopping bag would instantly mean he'd be rifling thorough my dresser drawers looking for women's underthings...
Last Christmas when the idea of a play kitchen was brought up by my parents as a potential gift for Leighton, Mark voiced his unfounded concerns about it being a "girl toy". Are not some of the best chefs men? Don't many men cook? Don't women love a man that can cook? Honestly, where do we get these ideas these days?
Regardless of societal stigmas, I plan to buy Leighton that pastel purple shirt. And, he does, in fact, have that play kitchen, and he LOVES it. Hopefully, he will grow up with less stigmas than our generation, and hopefully his future mate will appreciate it when cooks for her (a skill that likely budded because of a gender-neutral play kitchen... any maybe a pink cup)!
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Cyndi M. Frick
This lifestyle blog is my outlet to share and advise about the things I love. I always have an opinion!