Let's be realistic here... as mothers (or parents in general), we have so many wonderful, elaborate ideas that we wish would manifest themselves from idea to reality with the wave of a magic wand, but unfortunately, real life is not so accommodating. I recently spoke to one mother of four who said that when she had "only" two children was able to create custom parties, write in her blog, do things she liked to do. However, with a guilty tone in her message, she confessed that her parties now consist mostly of store-bought generic items, and she no longer has time to do any side projects that she enjoys or takes pride in - like blogging.
As I'm coming to realize, being able to OCD my way to the perfect custom party, a meticulously clean house, or having perfectly groomed children is becoming harder and harder to facilitate with work and life running at full speed in the background...
What I want: The perfect Pinterest-worthy, custom-themed birthday party
What I can manage: 95% homemade and custom with 5% generic and store bought - ooh - I was so close!
What I want: A home that sparkles - no clothes strewn about, no stray toys, and not a speck of dust to be seen
What I can manage: Vacuuming once a week, dusting once every other week, grabbing small tufts of cat hair out of my baby's hand before it reaches his mouth, and tolerating a few straggler toys that always manage to be underfoot when I'm in a hurry.
What I want: To be able to provide home-cooked, from scratch meals for my family every night of the week
What I can manage: 80% home-cooked, 10% takeout, 10% foraged items from the freezer
What I want: A perfectly orchestrated work/life/family balance
What I can manage: Organized chaos, Advil, and a glass of fruity, sparking wine
What I want: Happy children who love me unconditionally
What I can manage: Happy children who love me unconditionally
I know I obsess about everything, but obsessing over too many things you can't manage will drive you insane and make you a total witch with a capital "B". So, is it better to have perfection and to be a total witch, or is it better to strive for manageable and keep your wits and dignity about you? I think we all know the answer...
Don't worry if you don't have the time to make handmade decorations or if your floors have an unnaturally gritty and sticky texture... what matters most is what we should all strive to focus on - the happiness of our families, and the rest is just details.
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Cyndi M. Frick
This lifestyle blog is my outlet to share and advise about the things I love. I always have an opinion!