I know we all try our hardest to be a good mom (or dad) to our children, and some days we succeed, and some days we fail (or at least that's how we feel at the end of the day). Being a parent is hard, and being the mother is the most difficult task of all because a mother is, in essence, in charge of someone's entire life, his upbringing, his nutrition, his health, his world view!
Being a mother, you get so much advice about what you should do or shouldn't do. I came across an issue of Parents magazine that had compiled a whole list of things you should NEVER say to your children. Of course, I realized that I was saying several of those awful phrases including "hurry up", "good job", and "be careful". I don't remember the logic behind their telling me not to use these specific phrases, but I'm sure some child psychologist without children came up with this list of ridiculous parenting best practices.
Do you know what I would say to that kid shrink, the list-maker-upper? How about, "You try NOT saying 'hurry up!' to your kids when you're running late and are trying to get out the door while they're looking for anything to do but sit and put their shoes on!" and "You try your hardest not to say 'be careful' when your toddler who can't even walk to the park without tripping over nothing is climbing the metal rope ladder at the park for the first time!"
You know, I'm sure that our parents used these very phrases on us when we were all children, and aren't we all okay (well, mostly okay)? I mean, come on... let's be realistic here people.
I also wonder if being a good mom means being strict with your children or giving in to them once in a while. Is it better for them to be on a schedule, or is it better for them to be free with their time management? What makes a good mom?
One of my friends brought my son a pirate treasure box for his birthday that had dress-up toys in it (a spyglass, a sword, a treasure map, etc.). When I told her that her gift had become his favorite toy, she said, "Well, I noticed when he came for play dates at my house that he was drawn to the dress-up items so I thought he would like that." Clearly, she was more intuitive about my own son than I was. I felt like a bad mother (as I know we all do from time to time).
I know I'm probably over-analyzing the whole parenting gig, but there are so many times when there is no clear-cut right or wrong answer when it comes to rearing children. You just have to trust your gut and listen to your heart, and hopefully your children will end up happy and healthy and not in need of a child psychologist!
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Cyndi M. Frick
This lifestyle blog is my outlet to share and advise about the things I love. I always have an opinion!