Nowadays, I think that our mindset has changed drastically about what children "need" or "deserve" when it comes to sharing. What I'm talking about is sharing bedrooms, sharing birthday parties... things like that. It sure seems like in today's world of parenting, every child needs to be made to feel super special by having his own room and having his own birthday party.
Years ago when homes were much smaller, kids shared bedrooms, and there were no arguments about each having his own room - it was just the norm. Kids actually enjoyed sharing spaces with siblings. I'm sure when families were much larger, birthdays may have been celebrated together as well.
Now, I know I've gotten sucked into the mindset that each child should have his own room, but at some point, would they benefit from sharing a bedroom? My sister and I shared a bedroom for many years when we were little. I don't remember thinking that I wanted my own room... I think I actually remember liking sharing a room. I have a friend who says that she loved sharing a room with her sister, and she doesn't think it's good for kids NOT to share rooms because they lose that chance to create a strong bond with their siblings.
As for sharing birthdays, I was really hoping my second would be born in May and not in June (I hate when things don't go as I plan them in my head) - the same month as Leighton was born. However, the child had his own plans and decided he would come seventeen days before Leighton's birthday. Now I'm left with the annoying decision of how to handle two birthdays so close together.
I had not wanted to have my sons share a birthday party because I thought that each deserved his own special celebration. However, it seems silly to have friends and family come to the house about two weeks apart, especially when they're coming from out of town and especially in the busy summer month of June. They would probably have to choose one or the other to attend.
As the kids get older and have their own friends, separate parties will have to be implemented, but for now, maybe sharing isn't so bad. And as for the bedrooms, I have spent so much time and effort on designing both bedrooms specifically for each of them that I don't see putting them into the same room at this point. Maybe some morning after a stormy summer night, I'll find them sharing Leighton's queen-sized bed, and that will be precious, as they will have chosen each other's company for comfort and love.
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Cyndi M. Frick
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