When I married my husband all those long 11 years ago, did I ever think that I would be in competition with an electronic device for his attention? Um, not so much. Is it even fathomable to foresee your significant other's kryptonite as a flat, emotionless piece of plastic (an iPad, a smartphone, an XBOX, a PlayStation, etc.)? Unfortunately, this "other woman" seems to win out in many relationships... but as my inquisitive 4-year-old son would ask, "But why?" To that question, I have no answers... I just don't know.
As humans, we are all susceptible to falling prey to the addiction of technology even though there are more important things going on in the world around us - like interacting with the living, breathing members of our families. I can say with utmost certainty that no one will look back at a long life and say, "Gee, I sure wish that I had played more games on my iPad." (well, I bet our generation probably won't say "Gee".)
Addiction to technology can happen slowly until, without warning, everyone in the household is sitting on the couch with an iPad, messaging back and forth and never exchanging a spoken word. At one point, it had gotten so out of hand in our household that I actually threatened to put a wig and a skirt on my husband's iPad since he seemed to be more interested in "her" than in our family.
Oh yes, "she" (the ever-hated and sometimes jeered at iPad), had essentially become so much of a distraction to family time that she had literally manifested herself into being the other woman in his life. It's sad, but it's true. Confronting this issue time and time again, I finally got through to him, and now that boxy lady has a restraining order against her, and so she must keep her distance from him between the hours of 5:00pm and 8:00pm - Family Time.
I had imagined when his square-faced lover was out of the picture, that his eyes would be opened to the real life around him like in the movie The Island when the clones emerge from their underground prison for the first time, eyes adjusting to the sunlight and taking in every wonderment around them... and so it was.
Fortunately for him, my husband is now able to experience and enjoy the ever-changing personalities of his young boys, something I didn't want him to miss out on or regret. And even though the other woman's siren song calls to him during family time, he has come to understand and realize that there are more important things in this world than the lure of technology.
For my husband - Congratulations, you have been set free. Thank you for making the effort and changing (and for putting up with this blog).
Image Credits: iPad air (piratstudenterna.se), face (lauriefishbone.blogspot.com)
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