Having children is very difficult and trying for any married couple - this we all know. Those first few weeks or even months were described to me by one husband as "The worst 3 months of my life". Of course at the time I didn't believe him; I was pregnant with my first, and I was blissfully unaware of how draining a new baby can be. Now with two children, however, life is much more of a delicate balancing act - a divide-and-conquer situation.
My "poor" husband (I say "poor" with a little sarcasm because I don't really think he has it all that bad...) said to me the other day that he felt like we were just trying to survive every day. Now, I'm not sure exactly why he said that to me because at the time, I was feeling really great (unlike last time around when I was in breastfeeding hell and he was relapsing with ITP and couldn't taste food because of the crazy medications he was on). When I was a new mother with Leighton, I was just trying to survive every day; I was exhausted, frustrated, and I was trying to work from home between hour-long breastfeeding stints - AWFUL!
This time, however, even with two children, it seems easier somehow, and I actually feel like I've mellowed out a little - surprisingly for my psychotic Type A personality. I feel pretty good, and I don't feel like I'm just surviving - I'm living, and I'm really loving it (for the most part). Why does my husband feel otherwise? Do all husbands suffer from "survival mode" vs. "living" when it comes to having young children in the house? Is the reason that he is the one doing the first night feeding, and sometimes that means I get 8 hours of continuous sleep (don't hate on me)? I don't know exactly.
Maybe when the night feedings are over, he'll be able to join me in the land of the living and not the island of surviving. To my husband, I say, "This too shall pass" and "hang on, we will get there!"
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Cyndi M. Frick
This lifestyle blog is my outlet to share and advise about the things I love. I always have an opinion!