Okay, I do understand that I was a "Crap Giver" when it came to others who made the dreaded mini van purchase, but I honestly cannot believe the amount of crap that I have received for deciding to purchase a mini van! I get that the mini van isn't exactly the poster child for "cool". I mean, I did ask our car salesman (who had only been selling cars actively for 3 months) if he was going to hand me my sweater set when I bought the van (he didn't get it).
On Saturday, even our good friends asked if we parked our mini van down the street so the neighbors didn't see a mini van in their driveway. You would think that any other parent would understand the amount of sacrifices that you make for your children, right? How is this sacrifice of dignity any different than any other difficult sacrifices anyone else makes for their children? We should be respected for this level of sacrifice (it's right beneath the body-maiming sacrifice every mother makes).
Maybe the badgering is two-fold because of the car that I gave up, but seriously, it's done now... we have the van... so deal with it. I mean, I can watch my son from the front seat with the handy fish-eye mirror in the front - how cool is that? Leighton loves the Blu-Ray player (see his slack-jawed expression in the image above), he can get in and out very easily, and he loves the new van which makes me happy because we did it for him (and his brother). Kids love vans, and after all, isn't it all about the children? Doesn't anyone care about the children!?
The finance guy at the car dealership who was probably in his late 20's said, "If it was socially acceptable for me to own a mini van without having kids, I would! They're awesome; you can fit so much stuff and so many people in them!" If it was socially acceptable? Why do we all care so much? It's not like I married the van; it won't be a permanent fixture in my life forever. I guess this is where mid-life crisis usually stems from though, the sacrifices of being a parent and then freaking out when the kids get older and getting a cool car. But I already had the cool car - where does that leave me for crisis time later on? How many mid-life crisis are we allowed to have in one lifetime? Did I use mine up too soon? Does everybody get just one?
I'll tell you, I'm not in love with the mini van, but it is very practical. I do like that when we're going to be packing for a trip, I probably won't have to say, "Do we have room to bring xyz?" And although you vehicle is probably "cooler" looking than my brand new van, I'll always have one more thing than you... cup holders! So there. Who knows... maybe I'll single-handedly make mini vans cool, and then you'll want one. Stranger things have happened.
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Cyndi M. Frick
This lifestyle blog is my outlet to share and advise about the things I love. I always have an opinion!