You know, I'm probably preaching to the choir on this one, but finding a great OB/GYN is critical especially to your overall mental well-being when pregnant, or even when trying to get pregnant.
Now, personally, I'm all about having a female doctor, but I have heard some women say that the really old men are great OB's. I'm not buying what they're selling! I mean, aren't men of any age still men, and don't we all know what they're thinking; how could they not be??? Are we supposed to believe that they just turn that part of their brains off when they come to work? Right.
Four years ago when I first went in for a pre-conception meeting before we decided to start trying for our first, I chose a doctor online by her credentials. Let me tell you, people who look great on paper are not always great in person (I guess that's why there are such things as interviews).
That doctor got me so upset by making me feel like an idiot with all of my "silly" questions about pregnancy, even saying "Women have been doing this for many years" and "I grew up on a farm; having babies is messy!" Yes, she seriously likened human pregnancy to farm animals' pregnancies. Nice. Not the doctor for me.
Good thing for me, however, my nail tech friend recommended her doctor to me, and I have been so happy ever since switching. She, unlike farm doctor lady, is the most optimistic, smiley doctor you'll ever meet... all flowers and rainbows and a constant smile on her face... which is great because apparently someone in the medical world thinks I have anxiety and put it in my chart (however annoyed I was to learn this fact, I think he/she was correct in the diagnosis). My doctor (Dr. J) is always aware of my so-called anxiety, and I think she takes extra time to calm me down and make sure my mental health is as good as my physical health.
Dr. J. even remembers details about me - just like a hair dresser does. Doctors aren't required to have a good bedside manner to be successful like hair dressers, but it's nice when a doctor takes a personal interest in your life outside of your health issues. The nurse I had today said that when she was in labor, Dr. J. was at the hospital dropping off Girl Scout cookies, and she stayed to deliver her baby - now that's the kind of doctor you want to have!
The moral of the story is that if you're not super 100% comfortable with your OB/GYN, shop around, ask for recommendations. It is a very personal relationship you end up having with him/her, and they're up (way up) in your business sometimes. Find someone who cares about you as a person, like my Dr., who even gives the occasional hug.
This one's for you Dr. J... I hope you're reading! You ROCK... even though you did cut your nails today and couldn't "accidentally" break my water...
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Cyndi M. Frick
This lifestyle blog is my outlet to share and advise about the things I love. I always have an opinion!