Okay, so you probably don't think that any of your own dear, angelic children are spoiled, but look closely... and be honest (I won't tell). I know that I could probably have been labeled as "spoiled"... my husband would say I was, but he's not one to talk either. We are both the youngest in the family (I am the youngest of 2, and he is the youngest of 3 - and the ONLY boy). Yes, yes two spoiled brats in one marriage make for an interesting exercise in compromising...
But what causes one child to be more spoiled than the others? You would think that since the oldest, and thus "firstborn", child would be more spoiled because he (I'm just going to use one pronoun instead of saying he/she - I'm not sexist) got more two-on-one attention, because he got more new toys, new clothes, etc. At this point in our house, you could probably say that Leighton is a bit spoiled, but how could two "spoileds" not equal another spoiled?
What will happen when his younger brother arrives? Will he, the youngest, end up being more spoiled? Despite my best efforts to provide the best interior design for his bedroom, the youngest is still getting the shaft already, as he is getting the much smaller bedroom, reused nursery furniture from his big brother, reused clothes from his big brother, and all of the toys that Leighton acquired will become his. Sure he'll get some new clothes and new toys, but the majority of his playthings and wardrobe will be hand-me-downs. How could those things add up to a more spoiled child?
I can tell you for a fact that Mark's sisters think that he was the most spoiled and continues to be the "favorite". Sometimes when there is only one gender of a child (like Mark's being the only boy), that occurrence can result in spoiling because he needs his own gender-friendly clothes and toys so it may seem as though he is getting more than the others. Why then did I end up feeling as though I was spoiled? Our clothes weren't always new (ugh... the dreaded garage sales), but I don't recall hearing "no" a lot either...
Regardless, maybe spoiling of the youngest occurs because the mother doesn't want to let go of her last "baby" and thus gives that child anything he desires. I for one am not a fan of babies (even though there will be one arriving shortly) so I don't see myself trying to hold on to that dream. Maybe my second won't be spoiled then, who knows. Stay tuned... only time will tell...
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Cyndi M. Frick
This lifestyle blog is my outlet to share and advise about the things I love. I always have an opinion!