I like the movie Frozen as much as the next parent who is tormented by it daily, but I do take issue with the song "He's a Bit of a Fixer Upper". Why? I think it just sends the wrong message to little girls (and boys).
I'm not a big proponent of dressing little girls like princesses and filling their heads with thoughts of Prince Charming because that's just not how life is... at least it isn't for long if it does seem to start out that way.
The issue I have with the song is that the message is that men can be changed or "fixed up". Men cannot be taken on like projects... like so many women think they can do to a man. Women who date or marry men thinking that they can change their men usually end up frustrated and disappointed.
As for the message to boys, telling them that it doesn't matter that a woman is engaged and that you should still pursue her isn't a good message either! Come on Disney! I mean, the song is catchy, and I like the tune, but it's a bit presumptuous and a bit irresponsible. I know it's their job to fuel unrealistic dreams and fantasies, but I'm not buying what they're selling.
When I was a little girl, I fell into their trap of fantasy and princes, wanting both for myself. I think that way of thinking just sets us all up to fail: men and women. Men cannot possibly live up to the Prince Charming standard, and women are constantly left disappointed and bitter. No wonder so many marriages fail. Blame Disney.
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Cyndi M. Frick
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