I've always hated driving... I know, it's weird. Maybe the reason is that I was ahead a year in grade school and had to take driver's ed a year later than every one of my classmates. Or maybe the reason is that I feel at any moment a random stranger could be texting while driving and kill me, and I would be helpless to stop it. The reason could also be that I have no sense of direction and am constantly afraid that I will get lost in my own neighborhood.
However, when I had my son Leighton and revolted against having a stereotypical mom car, I went a little extreme... and got a muscle car. Oh yes, I'll be the first to admit that I'm in full-on mid-mommy life crisis, and with a second on the way, I will have to try even harder not to become that sweater-set wearing, mini van driving mother with short hair (okay, if you have short hair, don't get all offended... it's my own personal hangup).
I don't know why I'm so against being seen as a mother... a "ma'am" as it were, but I just am, and I can't help it. I'm not going to turn into a velour track suit wearing mom that wears too-large sunglasses either, but there's just something about being a mother that I'm fighting... maybe because I'm The Most Unlikely Mother... :) and had fought it for so long before giving in.
Regardless, it's not just men than can go through a mid-life crisis, women can too... and maybe for many of the same reasons. Men want to feel youthful, attractive, free. Women need to feel those things too, especially after having been scarred and maimed by playing host to other living beings for 9 months at a time.
And although a mini van may be in my future at some point because of its very practical nature and for the fact that for the life of me I cannot pack lightly (we need the most space possible when we travel!), at least I will have had a chance to be a cool mom, an unlikely mom, and I can look back at the glory days like a man who can't let go of old high school football championship memories.
I think it is perfectly acceptable for women to have these crisis. Why can't we enjoy a little frivolity too? Even though there is a car seat in the back, I know that when I'm in that car, people don't see me as a mom. So even if you don't have a mid-life-crisis-mobile like this, take your car out, imagine you do, roll the windows down, turn up your favorite song, and be free... because don't we all need a little vacation from the daunting reality that takes over our every day lives?
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Cyndi M. Frick
This lifestyle blog is my outlet to share and advise about the things I love. I always have an opinion!