Everyone keeps asking me, “Is three kids a lot harder than two? What’s it like?” There is some cultural stigma about going from two to three children. I think people assume it’s the difference from manageable to crazy.
The most common theory is with two kids you and your husband can divide and conquer but with three you are outnumbered. I guess I haven’t noticed the being outnumbered thing at all. My oldest son is more energetic than the average toddler - to say the least. I felt like I was outnumbered when I had just one.
Truth be told now that I am almost past the “terrible two-thru-fours” with my oldest boy I feel like things are much more manageable. The biggest difference for me is the time it takes to leave the house with all three kids. Finally, I wouldn’t dare take my two boys and baby girl to the store without my husband. It would be pandemonium. I guess I manage more kids by taking on less situations that are less manageable.
The next thing I need to really worry about is more children make the finances less manageable. This year’s updated stats on Childcare Aware said the cost of childcare for more than two children exceeds a mortgage in almost half of the states around the US. Yikes!
Families looking for relief from the added costs of more children may look out of country. The only paid childcare service that the cost doesn’t go up for additional children is Au Pairs. They are a set cost of $7.63 per hour 45 hours a week. There is no expectation of pay raises as the hourly costs are set by the US Department of State. Families with more than two kids might just look to the Au Pair program for relief from the costs of childcare and to keep from paying another mortgage payment.
Meanwhile, while I’m parenting if you need me you won’t find me in very many stores or at very many parties, but at home with my three little ones. I love my full house. A family of five is the perfect number if you ask me.
Summer Blackhurst is a budding childcare scholar for Go Au Pair, a mommy blogger, and she chases around three little people in her spare time.
Cyndi M. Frick
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