For those of you in my generation who grew up on Disney's The Little Mermaid, you know where that line comes from (about swimming all over you). It is true, however, that if you give your kids an inch, they will try to test that inch to see how much farther they can stretch it.
Recently, my three-year-old son Leighton has regressed with his potty training and has started wetting the bed at nap time and overnights. Up until this point, he has been good and has been staying in his bed even when awake, but a few days ago I told him to get up, come out of his room, and come find an adult to take him to the bathroom.
What is he doing? That little stink is now holding in some urine during his pre-sleep trip to the bathroom so that he can get out of bed and mess around in hopes of being taken to the bathroom again. He has figured out a way to manipulate the system, and there's nothing I can do to stop it.
When I say that he can have a treat (catch that, I mean one treat - singular), he says, "Two?". Sometimes (rarely), I say, "Maybe." What does my little manipulator say next? "Five?" as he holds up five fingers and tries to give me his most convincing cute face. No, that face doesn't work on me as I'm not one to give in so easily. Besides, how did we get from one to two to five? Maybe he thinks that if he asks for the large amount of five that his request for two isn't so bad, and I'll have to give in to his undeniable logic. But no. I don't.
Kids learn early on that they can manipulate adults, mostly the parents who will sometimes do most anything to keep an embarrassing situation from escalating to full-on run-out-of-the-store-leaving-groceries-behind shame and hiding. My philosophy is not to give them that inch, or they will walk (or swim) all over you. If they know you'll give in (or have given in before), they will push and push and push until they can get it to happen again.
Stay strong, my friends; we will get through it... eventually.
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Cyndi M. Frick
This lifestyle blog is my outlet to share and advise about the things I love. I always have an opinion!