Working moms these days have it hard (well, frankly, mothers of any sort do). Most recently, with the start of my new business, PARIS HONORÉ, I find myself worked to the point of drop-dead exhaustion, crabbier than normal (which my husband would quickly attest to), and more than a little bit stressed. While this new company is indeed exciting and the opportunity of a lifetime, I find myself overwhelmed with the things I cannot control. Managing two businesses and a household is a daunting daily dilemma.
But what about the children?! Well, that's the issue... what about them? How does a working mother choose between her passion and her loves? My work is my passion, but my children are my loves. How can I be successful in both worlds? Is it even a real possibility? Does the perfect mother really exist?
The fact of the matter is, unless I develop the ability NOT to need sleep, I will never be able to accomplish everything on my daily to-do list. Why do I beat myself up about every little "failure"? It's the perfectionist in me that is never satisfied. Is it a failure to order takeout instead of making the from-scratch dinner that was the evening's agenda? In my mind, yes, but why do I feel that way? No one in my family would ever say anything that would give me that impression.
Honestly, we mothers are way too hard on ourselves, myself included. Does the family still get fed if we get takeout? Yes. Does the house get condemned if I forget to vacuum? No. Do we walk around naked if I can't finish the laundry? Most likely, no, but ALL of my boys would love the opportunity to do so.
Here's my advice for you and for me: Don't beat yourself up about the little things. Do your children still smile? Are they happy? If so, you are being a successful, wonderful mother. As for work, well, we all find professional achievement at different levels... some with a promotion, some with finishing another post-graduate online course, some with just making it through the day.
Focus on the things you have accomplished and the joy in your life, and you will find the balance and happiness that you desire.
For all of my friends who are mothers...
Cyndi M. Frick
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